I havent posted for a while as I have had a sick baba at home to take care of, which involved a hospital stay and convincing a toddler to keep a drip in his hand and then in his foot. And then getting him out of the hospital room cupboard…
When I tell people I have a toddler at home and I’m doing a PhD they do tend to react like I am some sort of Superwoman…. or Supermum…
My response is always to say, “let me get the degree first, then we can decide if I’ve been successful!”. At the moment, and especially after taking a week ‘off’ I feel like I am waaay behind, have so much to catch up on and that I have lost all of the threads I was working on before Henry got poorly.
Coincidently I read this article in the Daily Mail yesterday (yes, I know, I know…) about childless women upset about the lack of flexibility that they have in their jobs and the extra work they have to take on. I do think that anyone who cares for another person, older or younger than them, should be given as much help as feasible by their employer. But then, one of the women talks about having the flexibility to leave early for a nice dinner, or the theatre. Not quite the same thing.
I do wonder about how Academia proper works with children. My faculty is more gender equal than some, and given the presumption that women will do the majority of the childcare, it is reassuring to note the number of high up members who have children.
Anyway, trying to get back into things, and using this blog again to start typing out a few thoughts… I’m no superwoman, or supermum, I’m just another PhD Mum 🙂
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I have received the same reaction when I tell folks about my kiddos and my degree. But it’s just what we did. I want to believe academia is supportive of parents and families and I think it’s moving slowly slowly in that direction. Incremental change. Great post!